I know the energetic pull very well. It is more of a compulsion. I have been there many many times. Sometimes I would distract myself all day with all sorts of activities but then find myself pulled into thinking of him. Sometimes I would see something that reminded me of a memory of him.
I forced myself to surrender many times but I always felt as if I was running from myself. It felt as if I was blocking the connection.
Surrendering to self-love is not easy either. It is very challenging to grow the emotional muscle to focus on yourself when your Twin Flame is on your mind 24/7.
Sometimes you live in a life situation where you don’t have enough time to focus on yourself. You could have children to take care of and support. You could be very busy at work all week.
I know this sounds like a cliché but no one will save you from feeling like this. Sometimes meeting a Twin Flame feels like an eternal curse. There is nothing you can do to change the nature of your bond. You are connected forever.
I have learned two lessons about why the runner cycle exists. One, it exists to teach us that love is greater than the human condition. Twin Flame love is one of the greatest forces in the universe. Running from a twin flame is out of fear — you feel overpowered and disarmed. You feel vulnerable and exposed in every way. He or she sees right through you. So, running out of fear of love is a learning lesson: to learn to open up yourself to embrace unconditional love with yourself and your twin flame.
Running in essence is not the physical activity of leaving a twin flame. It has layers to it. When you analyze your running behaviors, you are running from yourself. You are running from parts of yourself that don’t accept unconditional love. When you feel unworthy of love, you automatically run from it. You don’t want to associate with anything that reminds you of the love that you are hiding from — including your twin flame.
It takes a while to embrace parts of ourselves that we think are unlovable. Self-love is the beginning f healing. It is indeed the greatest revolution.
I hope that my perspective helps you. Stay Blessed!
My advice is simple: This helped me to feel better.
You are your own best friend
If you have been chasing your Twin Flame, you know that no matter how much you contact him or her, the pain does not go away. You have to accept that whatever chaotic emotions you are feeling are because of the pain that you carry within. You have to first fix yourself. There is a good reason why being separated from Twin Flames hurts you. Love exists to heal you and not to make you frustrated. You have to break down all the walls that you have built against love.
Every authentic Twin Flame will tell you that a Twin Flame encounter is not all about having a physical relationship. It is much deeper than that. Matter of fact, once you separate from a Twin Flame, your perspective of love, relationships, sex, and intimacy changes. You gain a new appreciation for falling in love. Your Twin Flame also spoils having connections with a non-Twin Flame.
Being celibate after meeting a Twin Flame is not by choice. It just happens to you. So, embrace it!
It is okay to research your Twin Flame condition. It is not okay to try to make other people justify how you feel. You already know how you feel within.
Be guided by your intuition — trust the connection that you feel. Believe in the bond that you share. Believe in the authenticity of your connection because only you understand what is going on.
It is worse when you look for answers from people who are not going through the Twin Flame experiences. You will be regarded as obsessive. Crazy. Unhinged. Desperate. Etc.
One truth that is common to every Twin Flame is that you feel a rise in your energetic vibrations once you merge. You feel like your energy is not yours — like you downloaded into each other.
You must learn to preserve your energy: surround yourself with positive vibes. Spend time alone to meditate. Meditating heals you. Bring inner harmony to you. Meditation also improves your telepathic abilities.
It does feel like it is fading sometimes. It goes dormant. You feel numb — like you cannot feel your shared energetic vibrations. Sometimes it just does not feel like you are not receiving as much as you are giving. It feels one-sided.
It could be that you have inner resistance to the connection without even realizing it. When I feel detachments within, I do a self-check. I know that I am not present or mindful. Sometimes I intentionally block out my Twin Flame’s thoughts. I try to not feel the connection especially if I am distracted by circumstances in my life situation. Sometimes I feel overburdened by the nature of the connection.
Sometimes I feel like the connection is fading when I have inner blockages. When I haven’t done the necessary inner work. For me, jams happen Spiritually, Emotionally, physically, and Psychologically. Sometimes I sulk thinking that my Twin Flame is moved on. Sometimes it just feels like I am being delusional— I get moments of doubt. It is normal to feel this way.
The other times I don’t feel the connection is when I know my Twin Flame is telepathically blocking me. You know right away your Twin Flame is also putting up an inner resistance to the relationship. The Twin Flame shared energy is an ebb and flow. It goes back and forth and you are both equal participants.
It is very simple — when the connection is notoriously intense and uncontrollable, it can trigger one or both twin flames to either put up an inner resistance to feeling it. Sometimes one thinks that physically blocking the other is the solution to the problem.
Firstly, every twin flame knows that separation from each other is impossible. It is an illusion because you never stop feeling connected to each other. The more you try to run, the more you feel pulled back into the connection. You never stop thinking of each other. You feel strange energetic sensations. It feels like a twin flame never leaves you.
Twin flame love is indeed scary and overwhelming that sometimes running from each other is a form of a time out to first figure out what is going on with you and your twin flame.
I hope that my perspective helps you. Stay blessed!
When you hold a grudge against someone, you usually fail to communicate your feelings to the person. If you do not forgive, it is challenging to move past the point of anger or pain after feeling hurt.
It is also very uncomfortable to feel at ease or trust the person with whom you had an angry confrontation. When you express your feelings and find forgiveness, it recaptures your natural state.
Forgiveness allows you to move through the negative emotions to release them. When you have released all the negative emotions, you return to a state of love and acceptance.
Forgiveness also releases your flow of joy and creativity. There are many ways you can express your truth and anger. The goal is to move towards forgiveness and love.
Well, it depends if they were married before or if they made the choice after the encounter.
When I met my twin flame, I was married too. It was very heartbreaking seeing him go on random dates with other women. I felt stuck generally— I wished all the time that it was me that he was out with. Sometimes he would make up excuses so that we both stayed in and cooked some awesome dinners on a rainy evening. We definitely love spending time together.
A married twin flame is not always in control of the situation because there are various valuable love lessons that need to be learned with karmic partners.
You would never be able to appreciate the sacredness of twin flame love if you hadn’t had your past relationships. Everyone in your life exists to teach you a lesson in life. Previous relationships also prepare us to embrace the intense twin flame love.
All in all, place yourself in your twin flame’s shoes. Wouldn’t you be jealous?
I hope that my perspective helps you with answering your question. Stay Blessed!
I have experienced both situations — I have known a narcissist ghosting me and I also know how it feels to chase a runner twin flame.
From my experience, it all comes down to the connection.
A Narcissistic Relationship…
When it comes to chasing a narcissist, it’s not fun. You feel bruised all the time. It is because, to a narcissist, it is a game. It is all orchestrated by them because he or she is obsessed with being in control of the situation and themselves. In this game, they hold all the cards. At the end of the day, you always lose — the narcissist has to always win.
Secondly, they don’t have any respect for you. It is always one-sided and you must always bend to their will. Even though you want to quit, it is impossible because you have no power in the play. You are blind to the exit options. You feel stuck.
But, Twin Flame Running and Chasing …
When you chase a Twin Flame, it is another playing field. You know within you that you have the power to stop. You feel that you are the same — twin flames are two sides of the same coin. You don’t feel the distinction in your energetic vibration. You have the same energetic signature or blueprint.
In essence, chasing a twin flame is a healing process as much as running. You learn various love lessons. You rediscover yourself. Chasing a twin flame puts you in a space of vulnerability. You open yourself up to your twin flame and the journey itself. You let your twin flame know how you feel. You express your love in the rawest form. The more you do this, the more healing you achieve.
It is indeed true that twin-flame love breaks your heart open. It is indeed true that it is through the wound that light enters.
One thing for sure about a twin flame is that whether you are aware of it or not, the sense of incompleteness is always with you in everything you do before you meet a twin flame. You don’t feel delighted whether it is making connections with other people or accepting who you are. You always feel like something is missing within — like nothing is completely enough.
Then when you meet a twin flame, you feel complete automatically. All the broken pieces within start coming together to make you whole. You start to feel a realignment with your natural authentic self. You feel alive for the first time. You feel content no matter whatever situation that you find yourself in.
One important note: When it comes to twin flames, when you know, you know. You have no doubts about the connection. The connection drives you to seek more understanding of what is happening to you. It is so natural that you find it unbelievable that such an experience could ever happen to you. It is until you find other people who have similar experiences that you can relate to that it all starts to make sense to you.
If you are saying that you experienced events that imply the aspects of a twin flame and night of the soul — try to examine the situation with an honest perspective.
The truth is that you can not just wish to have a twin flame or choose him or her. They just are your twin flame and nothing you can do can change that truth.
If you genuinely believe that you are going through a twin flame experience, just don’t worry about it. Everything will just happen to you without any of your control. The changes that turn your life upside down are unmistakable. And you will not miss out on the intensity of the chaotic emotions that the twin flame connection brings.
I hope that my perspective helps you. Stay blessed!
Well, this is the ultimate feeling for every twin flame to aspire to. That positive energetic vibration. Feeling negative about the twin flame situation takes as much energy as feeling positive. There is no downside to feeling positive. You only rise higher if you choose to feel optimistic and hopeful as you progress further.
Every twin flame must know that there is nothing good that comes out of a negative attitude. You have to choose right from the beginning of your journey to either embrace every aspect in a positive manner or dig yourself deeper into negativity and doubts.
The main reason why you feel positive about separation is that the journey has taught you how to trust the divine. You trust your connection and the truth of your intuition. You also understand that there is no aspect of your journey that you can control but yourself. You have also learned by this stage that separation from a twin flame is an illusion. You don’t feel separated at all — you feel his or her essence with you all the time. Their essence is always merging with yours.
I hope that my perspective helps you with answering your question.
My Twin Flame Journey 