From my experience, it is not a choice to ignore a Twin Flame. Still, usually, it is because the situation is not correct or because there is an obstacle in the way of the relationship so the Twin Flame Runner decides to back off.
It is also out of fear and insecurity that the runner keeps running from their partner until they heal the core wounding within.
The runner Twin Flame is always haunted by the unconditional love connection and they experience the agony of being physically separated from their fellow Twin Flame partner.
Even though so much time passed without talking to each other, the spiritual awakening and emotional healing phases have helped me transform my energy and my life for the best
Oh dear, it is not as easy as it sounds. When I blocked my twin flame, I first went numb. I was in shock that I had blocked him. Then after a while, emotional chaos kicked in. I panicked. I knew I had made a mistake asking him to leave me alone. I had already reunited it.
After that, I went into an intense phase of emotional chaos. I could not control what was going on with me. I now understand that the dynamic turbulence phase existed to help me purge my inner pain. This is because the more I purged my pain, I healed further.
Even though so much time passed without talking to each other, the spiritual awakening and emotional healing phases have helped me transform my energy and my life for the best. I have become the person of my dreams over the past 5 years.
I was lost. I was losing sight of the meaning of life and I was just existing instead of living my life.
When I was younger, I assumed that life becomes easier because you become wiser as you grow up but it was not the case for me. I was plateauing.
In my late twenties, I started to question what my life is all about. I wanted to understand more about how I can make myself feel happier and have a life of meaning.
On the outside, I was faking everything; from my friends, marriage, daily routines, work, etc and I was doing great at it. I was so good at pleasing people, and attending to everyone’s needs, and calling because this made me feel wanted.
I had this fear in me of dying alone, fear of not being good enough, fear of love, fear of confrontation, fear of connecting with other people, fear of not looking good enough. Just so much Fear.
These small fears had accumulated for so long that I was constantly living in a fearful mode, which affected my life choices. Away from people, I was so lonely on the inside. Life was meaningless and I was just floating in helplessness and anxiety.
I missed feeling connected to my Inner Child or Inner Self. I missed my True Authentic Self and I had no idea how to go back to being Me.
The gift that I have received from this journey is that after two years of emotional confusion and purging of my pain and fears, I am so grounded in my true authentic self. The freedom and happiness that I feel in my soul are from within me. It is imminent and I feel better every day. Happiness has become part of my natural state.
When I met my Twin, I saw him in everything that I am always yearning to become. The true authentic self. I kept thanking him for being nice to me and for being Authentic.
Once I met him, my confidence just grew automatically. I was challenged to appreciate his love by accepting myself first. Now, I feel complete and whole in our connection.
When we physically separated, I have been working towards becoming completely grounded in my natural energy. I feel complete, happy and in total peace and harmony even without seeing him for two years.
From time to time, I feel like this too. I believe in my opinion that what matters the most when this happens is your response towards the situation and your twin flame.
I used to make a lot of mistakes during the beginning. I was naive about twin flames. When I could channel his feelings, I would take them on as my own. I could not distinguish between what was mine and what was his.
So, every time I felt that urge to contact him even though it was not mine, I would immediately reach out to him. The more I did this, the more it accelerated our running and chasing phase. I could not understand why I put him further away.
I didn’t know how else to respond to his energy pulling me into the connection.
As I learned to harness my twin flame energy, I learned to control the urges. I learned that sometimes I felt compelled to reach out to him because it was him desiring to reach out to me. We both mirror our deepest desires to each other.
My advice is, let the urge pass because you feel it deep within that it’s not caused by you. If it persists then figure out a healthy way to communicate to your twin flame.
Remember that there is a difference between reacting to the situation and responding to it. I hope that my perspective helps you. Stay blessed!
There is no guarantee that once you leave your marriage, you will end up with your Twin Flame. Everything is a process, and it takes time for the results to happen.
When I left my marriage, some people who don’t understand what Twin Flames are assumed that I was just obsessed with a love spark outside my marriage yet it was always an intense spiritual connection with my Twin Flame.
I am now single and I am realizing the meaning of happiness without needing to feel connected to my Twin Flame.
If you are leaving your marriage, don’t do it for your Twin Flame because if any of your expectations don’t go as planned, you will blame it on your Twin Flame.
I understand how complicated the situation gets when you are married by the time you meet your Twin Flame. Sometimes you doubt how you feel wondering if you are using your Twin Flame experiences to justify your actions.
Use your integrity and let your intuition guide you through make making your choices. Do everything for yourself!
I do not advise you to discuss the topic of being a Twin Flame with anybody else before you go through the experiences. You will never affirm that you are a Twin Flame except if you have undergone some changes.
It is also very challenging to make another person understand the Twin Flame experience if he or she has never met a Twin Flame. You sound delusional if you try to explain the phenomenon.
When it comes to telling your spouse or karmic partner, you will sound like you are emotionally cheating on your husband or wife. Also, you will make your spouse jealous; he or she will not trust you. They will assume that at some point, you will choose your Twin Flame.
Your husband or wife will start analyzing your behaviors and actions. You will regret telling him or her about your Twin Flame experiences.
Also, while we are still on this topic, do not discuss the Twin Flame experiences with your Twin Flame either. You will scare them off. You will sound crazy. You will make him or her uncomfortable.
When it comes to communicating with a Twin Flame, it is best to describe your experiences other than explain what the Twin Flame experience is. Your Twin Flame will have to go through specific experiences to awaken.
When your Twin Flame blocks you, you become manic. You feel helpless. You go through a deep blue funk phase. You feel the grief of losing a Twin Flame. You feel like you are missing a limb.
When a Twin Flame ignores you, you feel like you are stuck in a dark tunnel. You have no idea how to get yourself out of the depression. You feel emotional pain. You feel physical pains. You are psychologically challenged. Every step of the depression phase is unbearable and traumatizing.
The depression phase is the most dreaded because you miss your Twin Flame all the time. You feel energetically tethered to each other. You feel the energetic merging whether you are awake or asleep.
While going through the depression phase, I was also experiencing the night of the soul. I lost the taste for food. This was the loneliest time for me as a Twin Flame. I was very confused about why his silence triggered me into a Spiritual Awakening. Every time I reached out to him and he ignored me, I was quickly thrown into another phase of Soul-searching.
His silence triggered unexplainable fears; I was afraid of losing him. I was desperate for his affirmation that he felt the same way. I learned that I had to face my fears. I had to find the root cause of the pain that I felt.
The first time I attempted Surrender, I wrote a six-page letter to him. I explained to him all the stress I went through every time he ignored my messages or calls. I told him how grateful I am for meeting him.
When I told him the details of my experiences, I was hoping that at some point in the Twin Flame journey, he would understand that our encounter was not coincidental. I also knew that whether my Twin Flame acknowledged our connection or not, he would resonate with some of my experiences.
At the beginning of the depression phase, I was pretty hostile toward him. Some of my chasing behaviors seemed obsessive. There are days when I felt anger and frustration — I became mean towards him. Those are the moments when I regretted meeting him. I felt cursed with love.
When I learned to embrace my experiences with an open heart, I realized that all the pain that I was feeling was buried within me. It had nothing to do with my Twin Flame. I repressed parts of myself that I did not want to face.
I grew the inner strength to face my pain. I went through a series of energetic cleanses; I was also healing my core wounding.
Halfway through my healing phase, I wrote another letter to my Twin Flame asking for forgiveness for my hostility towards him when I was depressed. I also told him that I always appreciate him. Every time he ignored me, I grew the inner strength to face my pain.
I also told him how I rediscovered the authentic version of myself by learning to embrace self-love. I also thanked him for inspiring me to get to know myself.
Your Twin Flame runner can find someone else, marry them, and even make a family with them after you are physically separated.
You have no control over your Twin Flame’s behavior. More so, you have no control over the process of your Twin Flame journey.
It is very sad when some Twin Flames meet in this life. They are not meant to have a physical relationship because not every Twin Flame couple is meant to have a physical relationship.
In this instance when Twin Flames are not destined to end up together in a relationship as romantic partners, your Twin Flame triggers you to awaken to yourself. You go through the invigorating Spiritual transformation process.
For some Twin Flames who are meant to be romantic partners in this lifetime, no matter how much difficulty they face during their physical separation phase, they always find a way back to each other.
Other Twin Flames who are afraid of embracing the change that Twin Flame encounter brings to grow and transform into their authentic selves, always end up going through endless cycles of running and chasing. You go through prolonged phases of physical separation until both partners embrace every aspect of their journey.
Your Twin Flame runner can choose to ignore you, resist the connection, and move on with their life in a new relationship with someone else. Nothing can change the unconditional love they feel for you.
Resisting the Twin Flame love is the most excruciating moment of your life because no matter what you both do, nothing changes the intensity of the love connection that you feel for each other in your hearts.
As a Twin Flame chaser, you always assume that your Twin Flame runner is happy with someone else because they seem to have found happiness in a new relationship. That is not the case.
Your Twin Flame is also haunted by thoughts of you daily and they have a deep desire to be close to you.
From my experience of being temporarily a runner in Twin Flame, you never stop thinking of your Twin Flame every second of the day, if you block out thoughts of them, you feel the connection eating at you because of the Soul intimacy that you share.
You always feel your Twin Flame sending you feelings of love when they are thinking of you and when they miss you, you feel your Twin Flame’s longing for you in form of heartache or emotional pain.
The Twin Flame runner always feels the connection as much as the Twin Flame chaser does.
Sometimes you get physical heartaches because of the intense shared energy of Oneness and if you try to ignore the connection within, the process of the energetic share with your Twin Flame interferes with your emotional state which affects your mood swings and emotional well-being.
Your emotional state affects how you relate with the people around you and it also affects those who rely on you for emotional support like your new karmic relationship and family members if you have children.
The Twin Flame runner suffers the most during the physical separation phase because of the tendency to deny unconditional love and the Twin Flame connection altogether.
The inner resistance that you feel like a runner in Twin Flame is very challenging to deal with because you are constantly thinking of how to block the connection and ignore your Twin Flame instead of focusing on how to move on with your life.
If your Twin Flame partner is chasing you, you are constantly finding clever ways to avoid them. This means that you are constantly thinking of them because the Twin Flame experience takes over your life once you acknowledge each other.
Sometimes memories of the initial encounter catch you by surprise and you start reminiscing about the fun time that you had while you were together during the bubble love phase.
You also keep comparing your new karmic partner’s behavior to how your Twin Flame treated you during your initial encounter. This is because no love is as authentic as Twin Flame love, and it is only your Twin Flame who can reciprocate it and fill the void that you feel.
Your dreams are filled with your Twin Flame because the souls do not understand the physical separation. You dream of your Twin Flame whether you like it or not and the energetic share is always intensely felt.
When you encounter your Twin Flame, you are triggered into a Soul Awakening phase where you feel the energetic merge with them. You continuously feel the energy of Oneness with your Twin Flame until you learn to balance yourself from within to feel and act as one single energetic unit.
My dear, be thankful that at least you communicate with each other. It is indeed a blessing to have some sort of contact with him or her. Here are some of the reasons why a Twin Flame is afraid to meet you in person: Insecurities — A Twin Flame will avoid you at all costs because you are the trigger of all his or her frustration. Do not take this personally though. He or she has issues to deal with. You are not the source of their pain.
I advise you to be open and honest with your Twin Flame; call him or her out if they are hiding from their pain. It is best for both of you to be grounded in your authentic selves — it will save you so much frustration.
Your separation cycles will continue if you are unwilling to confront the nature of your Twin Flame dynamic.
When a Twin Flame is dealing with his or her issues, they need that space to find themselves at his or her pace.
A Twin Flame does not want to inflict his pain on you. It is best to deal with his or he issues in private.
You are also another excuse for them to delay the progress of their healing journey. A Twin Flame can hide behind you or blame you for their issues. Respect their need for space.
As a former chaser, you completely surrender and trust divine timing that everything will be all right. You also grow more empathy for your Twin Flame because you know how it feels to chase your Twin Flame and the stress associated with it. You also understand how it feels to be a runner or chaser — this makes you understand the meaning of Twin Flame Oneness. There is no distinction between a chaser and a runner. You are one in essence.
If it is a harmonious relationship that you desire with your Twin Flame, you can choose to not run from them once the energetic roles switch. If they start chasing you, you can choose to confront your situation to have closure so that you can stay in a harmonious Union. You can choose to move forward on your journey instead of being triggered into another cycle of running and chasing.
Sometimes when the runner becomes the chaser, it could trigger more healing between the Twin Flames because of the shared energy of Oneness. Twin Flames are a Single Energetic Unit; therefore you feel each other’s energetic vibration. If one Twin Flame needs more healing, they tend to bounce back into each other’s lives to be triggered into another phase of energetic cleansing.
The worst situation is when the runner returns but when their Twin Flame partner had already moved on with their lives because you eventually get exhausted from chasing your Twin Flame. You get tired of unrequited love and you choose to move on. It is frustrating to the runner Twin Flame if they return but when their partner has a new karmic partner who cares for them and makes them happy. Sometimes the runner Twin Flame loses their true love if they run for too long.
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